Casually Entering 20s, *Quarter Life Crisis is Joining the Chat*

Is it only me or everybody with the same age as me are going through the same phase? Well, for the sake of my serenity, I took the second question as the answer. Or are you now in the phase of confusion, anxiety or you just simply tired of your life? Congrats! You are now officially joining the Quarter Life Crisis Club, fun right!

But before we jump into the moment, we need to be aware of what exactly is quarter life crisis and why is it matter to us?

In short, quarter life crisis is a condition when people around the ages of 20 and above is experiencing the phase of confusion, feeling lost, and just do not know what to do with everything with their life such as education, work life, dreams, romance, and the lack of self-identities.

Some people might grumbling “Hey, why you are so exaggerated? Just chill and let the universe handle it!” I mean, that statement is not wrong either. Quarter life crisis is indeed something that must be normalized, considering that it is just a matter of perception. It is about how we actually cope and handle it. But for some people, quarter life crisis is frustrating because it leads into an overthinking situation which surely makes mentally and physically tiring. Newsflash, it can also end in depression.

So, what should we do then? Cannot be bothered with another additional depression.

Well, friendly reminder that every single person has their own ways to cope with the situation however, here I provide three realistic tips to dealing with quarter life crisis. Yes, three is enough and realistic is highlighted.

1. Do Not Compare Your Life With Other

This is a solid way but hard to apply on the daily basis. Unconsciously, this is considered as the biggest factor which makes you think that you are not doing enough in your life. You are constantly comparing your achievements with others and that is not okay. That is never okay. Why? Because as a human being, we have our own chapters and timeline of life.

Human being are not mean to be compared. Other’s accomplishments and achievements are enough to act as a motivation to be more productive, not to act as a benchmark of success or even to create jealousy. Every person’s chapter is different and it all matters.

2. Surround Yourself With People Who Appreciate You

Say goodbye to your toxic cycle of friendship, relationship, or environment! As you are getting older, it is common for you to lose your significant others during the journey. People tends to distance themselves if it no longer beneficial for them. It is the way of living and surviving. However, the main point here is quality over quantity. Not that I encourage you to cut people off all of the sudden but you need a supportive environment that makes you feel comfortable to share everything. Yes, everything!

Let say you are able to express your problem, feeling, anxieties, or even your dreams, then you might get new insights or at least you let out those burdens on your shoulders that had been there all along.

3. Know Yourself

Finally, we came across to the most important way to cope with quarter life crisis. Yes people, it is hard pill to swallows but we must face it. Here is the thing, you can walk around without comparing yourself with others or you have the privileged to experiencing the most supportive environment ever. But what if you still drowning in your own thoughts? Nobody cannot really help you but yourself.

It is obligatory for you to know what you want, what do you want to be, where should you go. However, please lightly and do not rushing. Those questions is overwhelming and a lot, you will find the answer along the journey without even realizing. Once you know where your hearts belongs, it is easy for you to surf the waves.

Well, the age of 20s is a mix of fun and confusion. Many responsibilities needs to be fulfilled, but please stay sane. Cheers to the quarter life crisis!

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